06-02-2024, 08:47 AM
I was working in this article for some time to post it in portuguese but decided to translate using ChatGPT. If you see something weird in the translation, feel free to point it out.
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Human beings are constantly obsessed with the illusion of security. Whether it's in work, relationships, family, or money, everyone desperately seeks something that simply doesn't exist. Including here in Reality: spending the rest of your life in your mom's basement, wasting away to some is the pinnacle of success. The problem is that this is unnatural and a synonym for failure – understand, we are not ONLY animals, but just like them, we need to perpetuate our genes.
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The truth is there are no guarantees in any sphere. In the professional realm, you can lose your job at any moment, whether it be due to false accusations, your manager not liking you, or simply not fitting into the company's plans anymore.
In relationships, the idea of security is even more fragile. They can crumble over any little thing at any moment, as has been discussed ad nauseam. And the justice system will be eager to destroy your life if the lady so desires, after all, she gets the house, the kids, and the fat alimony to spend on her new boyfriend, using the bed you paid for.
And make no mistake, there is no security in life in general. We may not live in the Middle Ages, the Wild West, or the caveman era anymore, but at any second, you can be struck by death without warning. A junkie who decides to pull the trigger, a runaway car on the highway, a fall down the stairs, or a simple heart attack. Memento mori.
The obsession with guarantees negatively impacts our emotional health, feeding disorders like generalized anxiety, where we excessively worry about the future, convinced it will only be negative.
Understand the crucial difference between being occupied and worrying. Being occupied is actively seeking solutions, while worrying is anticipating the future, creating a vicious circle of anxiety and pessimism.
Accept reality: security is an illusion, but living without considering the future and falling into the extreme of idleness also results in a hedonistic, cowardly, and selfish life...living as if there were no tomorrow is not the answer, but living today valuing the essential things in life. The world is inherently insecure, and thinking about the worst only feeds anxiety. Accept uncertainty as part of life and develop psychological maturity to deal with adversity.
Nothing is guaranteed. Only by accepting insecurity as a constant can we live more freely and responsibly. Let go of attachments, for nothing is permanently ours.
Learn to tolerate insecurity by controlling your inner dialogue, taking risks, and maintaining a confrontational attitude towards challenges. Don't be fooled: worrying changes nothing, it only consumes your energy and peace of mind.
Take risks and follow through: By risks, we mean the things you'd like to do but never finish out of fear that something might go wrong. Remember, there's nothing secure, and if you never try, you'll never know what could have been. Let go of these limiting fears and let whatever happens, happen, for better or for worse.
Maintain a confrontational attitude: There are things we can control and things we can't. Focus on solving the problem and try to resolve it as best as possible, but forget about what you can't control. So, abandon worry and don't believe it will magically prevent the problem because it won't.
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I leave a reflective exercise here: If you were to receive 10 million reais but were diagnosed with only 2 weeks left to live, with no chance of a cure, what would you do? Would you regret how you lived up to this point?
In this scenario, what would have more value, the company of a family and people who care about you, or a BMW? A modest life, but surrounded by your children, with your blood, or a lavish life but alone in a room? Choices.
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Human beings are constantly obsessed with the illusion of security. Whether it's in work, relationships, family, or money, everyone desperately seeks something that simply doesn't exist. Including here in Reality: spending the rest of your life in your mom's basement, wasting away to some is the pinnacle of success. The problem is that this is unnatural and a synonym for failure – understand, we are not ONLY animals, but just like them, we need to perpetuate our genes.
The truth is there are no guarantees in any sphere. In the professional realm, you can lose your job at any moment, whether it be due to false accusations, your manager not liking you, or simply not fitting into the company's plans anymore.
In relationships, the idea of security is even more fragile. They can crumble over any little thing at any moment, as has been discussed ad nauseam. And the justice system will be eager to destroy your life if the lady so desires, after all, she gets the house, the kids, and the fat alimony to spend on her new boyfriend, using the bed you paid for.
And make no mistake, there is no security in life in general. We may not live in the Middle Ages, the Wild West, or the caveman era anymore, but at any second, you can be struck by death without warning. A junkie who decides to pull the trigger, a runaway car on the highway, a fall down the stairs, or a simple heart attack. Memento mori.
The obsession with guarantees negatively impacts our emotional health, feeding disorders like generalized anxiety, where we excessively worry about the future, convinced it will only be negative.
Understand the crucial difference between being occupied and worrying. Being occupied is actively seeking solutions, while worrying is anticipating the future, creating a vicious circle of anxiety and pessimism.
BE A MAN
Accept reality: security is an illusion, but living without considering the future and falling into the extreme of idleness also results in a hedonistic, cowardly, and selfish life...living as if there were no tomorrow is not the answer, but living today valuing the essential things in life. The world is inherently insecure, and thinking about the worst only feeds anxiety. Accept uncertainty as part of life and develop psychological maturity to deal with adversity.
Nothing is guaranteed. Only by accepting insecurity as a constant can we live more freely and responsibly. Let go of attachments, for nothing is permanently ours.
Learn to tolerate insecurity by controlling your inner dialogue, taking risks, and maintaining a confrontational attitude towards challenges. Don't be fooled: worrying changes nothing, it only consumes your energy and peace of mind.
Take risks and follow through: By risks, we mean the things you'd like to do but never finish out of fear that something might go wrong. Remember, there's nothing secure, and if you never try, you'll never know what could have been. Let go of these limiting fears and let whatever happens, happen, for better or for worse.
Maintain a confrontational attitude: There are things we can control and things we can't. Focus on solving the problem and try to resolve it as best as possible, but forget about what you can't control. So, abandon worry and don't believe it will magically prevent the problem because it won't.
When men take risks, the world moves foward, so girls and pussyes can cry on the web and live like hedonists.
I leave a reflective exercise here: If you were to receive 10 million reais but were diagnosed with only 2 weeks left to live, with no chance of a cure, what would you do? Would you regret how you lived up to this point?
In this scenario, what would have more value, the company of a family and people who care about you, or a BMW? A modest life, but surrounded by your children, with your blood, or a lavish life but alone in a room? Choices.
Um homem com escolhas é um homem livre.
